it has me wonderin' why do bad things happen to good peoples? I am ALMOST at a loss for words. This rarely happens to me, the Scrapster. I usually have lots to say and plenty of wisdom about faith, determination and strength. All of those are amazing traits that humans seem to inherently have... But some things are just hard to explain - life's BIGGEST and scariest happenings are just too much to bear sometimes. I am talking about things that NO Peep should EVER have to face.. So WHY I ask?
It can't be "FOR A REASON" although some people actually believe that kind of thing!
Definitely, out of ANYTHING bad, there is almost always some GOOD that comes...especially LONG after and "in retrospect"....more compassion, greater capacity to truly LOVE, the need to give back and perhaps see others through the difficult times, an appreciation for the simpler things in life...a new found respect for another sunrise, time with loved ones and the warmth of a smile or hug from another person....but how is it that in a world that is so full of amazing and miraculous scenery, animals, and peoples that BAD just HAPPENS ?
and how and why is it that it seems to HAPPEN to those who least deserve it, who have the BIGGEST hearts...
It's SO hard to watch the sufferings of others and to feel helpless to what the outcome may truly be. Some things are just out of a human's control, that's all. Try as they may, humans just have to hang on to that one small ray of HOPE...Sadly, being born into this world does not guarantee freedom from difficulty, sadness, grief, or obstacles to overcome.
Without sharing too much of what my peeps have been facing in their world, I can tell you that their days have been filled with listening, encouraging, praying and believing in miracles... They worry, they comfort, they give of themselves in the best way they know how because that is what they KNOW to do for others in times of need.
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In a crisis, people don't always know how to help and those GOING through the crisis, don't very often ASK for help. When someone is IN a crisis....help where you think they need it the most...even if they insist they are "okay", there are things that need doing. Always. Just figure out how to help without imposing. Distraction will not work. Their every thought and moment is consumed with what they are going through. They may not be able to sleep or eat...that lump in their throat is a constant now...they will be operating in a sort of FOG - on autopilot and their thoughts and memory will be clouded. Try not to tell them they need to rest or they need to eat. They know that. They just CAN'T right now... they will eventually. When something THIS big happens, it's like being thrown off a cliff. They are flailing, falling hard, full of fear and disbelief and at some point they know they have to land...they just have no idea what it's going to be like when they do. The days can be long, hard to face and exhausting. They feel SICK and their bodies ache all over. They need people who can support them by lending an ear and voicing little wisdom. Don't pretend you know what they're going through and don't assume you can possibly understand. Experiences are as unique and different as we all are. Cry with them. Hold them if they need holding. Let them know you care by just showing up and not staying too long. Give them space and time.
Keep Praying and Holding onto Hope.
They will somehow - by the GRACE of God - get through this...perhaps not fully intact, but likely with a gaping hole in their heart that over time, they will somehow "adapt" to...
This I know for sure. The world is full of hearts that have been broken, shattered and have BIG holes....at first, people with these fractured hearts have trouble walking around that way, but deep down, they somehow come to the realization that they have to eventually move forward and so they move their feet - shuffling them at first - but finally, they learn to put one foot in front of the other and just keep going. What often amazes them as they are moving along in the process is that while they were effectively once "standing still", the rest of the world just kept on spinning.
At some point, way down the road (after many many steps) to their surprise, they will notice the sun rising. They will finally look up and feel the warmth on their face and soak in their first ray of a new and perhaps different beginning. They will come to know that somehow....they actually landed. It might not have been a smooth landing, but at least their feet are on the ground! They will then KNOW for sure that there is still good in this world and there is so much to be grateful for, to see and to marvel at and to experience. That hole can never be filled...but now they are learning to live with it.
The WHY will never be known. (Not on earth, anyway) We will just have to keep wondering. Perhaps someday...the answers will be clearly given when instead of falling, we are raised far beyond the sun and the clouds.